tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-369707972162200426.post8969278177617892117..comments2023-09-01T08:52:07.177-07:00Comments on Giraffes Make Me Laugh: I Really Need You TonightTMShttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11674680231294740530noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-369707972162200426.post-90883444691591275252010-05-02T07:09:16.620-07:002010-05-02T07:09:16.620-07:00Thank you for this post. I printed it out and ref...Thank you for this post. I printed it out and referred my daughter (adult dtr with teenagers) to your post also. I appreciate having something more to share with my grandchildren about why they should wait for intimacy. I also have enjoyed your other posts and am always excited when I find that you have posted again.DS at the wellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17902036959124957287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-369707972162200426.post-67592210475306779372010-04-23T13:06:39.097-07:002010-04-23T13:06:39.097-07:00Hello you . . .
I was thinking about you the oth...Hello you . . . <br /><br />I was thinking about you the other day, not prompted by anything else, just out of the blue. And wondering how you were and what you were doing. Nice to be back in the same circles again. <br /><br />In my neck of the woods ever?TMShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11674680231294740530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-369707972162200426.post-89912575792412711482010-04-23T11:18:09.637-07:002010-04-23T11:18:09.637-07:00This is the best piece I have read on sex in a lon...This is the best piece I have read on sex in a long, long time - maybe since Jeffrey Holland's Of Souls, Symbols, and Sacraments. But I love this woman's perspective. I love the honesty and vulnerability of it. It's the kind of discussion our children need if they are going to grow into sexually mature spouses. Thanks, Tessa.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17239276849763877823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-369707972162200426.post-51690395313117138662010-04-23T05:11:53.637-07:002010-04-23T05:11:53.637-07:00I love having someone else to talk to who understa...I love having someone else to talk to who understands how all things fit together--so that having a conversation on the quantum physics of sex makes perfect sense!Prismhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10832326824464581309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-369707972162200426.post-85733679845079418022010-04-23T05:09:52.268-07:002010-04-23T05:09:52.268-07:00Trumpets (actually, any brass instrument) make EVE...Trumpets (actually, any brass instrument) make EVERYTHING better! Truly! Check out this one, which is SO MUCH BETTER with a brass section! <br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1RgRwIVMfM4&feature=related<br /><br />I loved most of "Love, Actually", and it makes me sad that they felt the need to put SO MUCH swearing in (I keep telling myself the swear words don't count if they are "in British"--but I watch so many English shows--and the words keep popping into my head, so I guess that wishful thinking is out!).Prismhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10832326824464581309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-369707972162200426.post-72269711860452998602010-04-22T19:38:48.135-07:002010-04-22T19:38:48.135-07:00I want the trumpets that come out of the choir sea...I want the trumpets that come out of the choir seats in Love Actually when Keira Knightly gets married.TMShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11674680231294740530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-369707972162200426.post-29204983666940986482010-04-22T15:56:18.270-07:002010-04-22T15:56:18.270-07:00Another side note--If I had not gotten married in ...Another side note--If I had not gotten married in the best place in the world (Washington DC Temple), and had been in the position that so many brides find themselves in--that of "choosing their own vows", I definitely would have used that wedding vow (preferably uttered to Anthony Andrews as Lord Percy Blakeny, in my all time favorite wedding scene!) Insert wistful sigh here. <br />However, I do feel that that particular vow is tremendously wise.Prismhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10832326824464581309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-369707972162200426.post-25639801951279611742010-04-22T09:15:01.013-07:002010-04-22T09:15:01.013-07:00Taking Prism's comments into account about sex...Taking Prism's comments into account about sex is not always romantic, I would like to add another line to the second to last paragraph,<br /><br />"Because physical intimacy, not even sex, can leave you feeling discarded and utterly bereft, it must be entered into body and soul."TMShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11674680231294740530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-369707972162200426.post-43046632886186239802010-04-22T09:12:07.971-07:002010-04-22T09:12:07.971-07:00Prism,
You said exactly what I wanted to say and ...Prism,<br /><br />You said exactly what I wanted to say and was hinting at with the quantum physics. I just ran out of room and reader attention. <br /><br />Physicist Fritjof Capra summarized quantum physicist Geoffrey Chew as follows: "The bootstrap philosophy declares that we must abandon the idea of fundamental building blocks of matter. There are no fundamental entities whatsoever--no fundamental constants, laws or equations. The material universe is seen as a dynamic web of interrelated events. None of the properties of any part of this web is fundamental. They all follow from the properties of other parts, and the overall consistency of their interrelations determines the structure of the entire web."<br /><br />Taking into account language that describes creation as "organization" of already existent matter, the theory of quantum physics rings through to me. Those whom I touch touch me. Their matter and parts take my matter and parts and vice versa. Each interaction is part of the web and ripples out beyond ourselves. Each physical interaction has implications, consequences and ramifications that we cannot control by just "not thinking" about it.TMShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11674680231294740530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-369707972162200426.post-45826097600225840222010-04-21T23:26:12.838-07:002010-04-21T23:26:12.838-07:00This post has been a complete answer to prayer. Th...This post has been a complete answer to prayer. Thank you for sharing what I needed hear today.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15610604212197124182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-369707972162200426.post-15322734802850926652010-04-21T09:53:36.349-07:002010-04-21T09:53:36.349-07:00When I was in college (which was not BYU or any ch...When I was in college (which was not BYU or any church school, but which did have a heavily Mormon population), I took a "Courtship and Marriage" class from a tremendously wise man, who was a bishop, a licensed counselor, and the father of 8 children. He pointed out that EVERY interaction we have with someone else--even smiling at someone in the grocery store, makes an impact on us. We take a tiny bit of them, and leave a bit of ourselves. <br /><br />The more physical the contact, the more of our self we leave (which is why we hug our friends and shake hands with a business associate). The bonds of physical intimacy--and not just the sex act, but all of the other things that go with it--create one of the strongest bonds possible. <br /><br />If the relationship is broken, it actually rips away part of your soul with it. (look at how love turns to hate in divorces, and the soul-gaping pain of a widower). The more people you are casually sexually intimate with, the more times your soul is torn. They have actually done studies that show that people who have frequent, casual sex age faster than people in monogamous relationships, AND prostitutes age about 10x faster than their peers (which explains why THOSE girls in HS always seemed so much older than I was!).<br /> <br />He also gave me my FAVORITE analogy: A marriage is like building a brick wall. Communication is the bricks and sex is the mortar. Your wall will never be as strong as it could optimally be if you try to get away without either one.<br /><br />My wise mother also taught me that sex is not always "romantic" like the movies. It reflects every emotion that the human heart carries, and can be comforting, uplifting, loving or even funny. That is also why it can have such a negative side--fear, pain and terror are the other side of the coin.<br /><br />My own thought is about how much of our self esteem is wrapped up in our sexuality. Both in finding ourselves "desirable", but (as in the classic free market example) our rarity makes us more or less valuable--to ourselves as well as to others.Prismhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10832326824464581309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-369707972162200426.post-86165359560864954802010-04-20T18:58:58.544-07:002010-04-20T18:58:58.544-07:00This is exactly the way I think. I have long wrest...This is exactly the way I think. I have long wrestled with the dilemma of how to convince kids that do not yet have a testimony to avoid potentially damaging behaviors. You can't expect someone to obey God's laws when they're not so sure about God. Even amongst people who have strong testimonies, obedience for obedience's sake is pretty rare. What child wants to hear "Because I said so!" as the answer to every "Why?" Not this one. <br /><br />Well said!InkMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05519976062467674531noreply@blogger.com